"A Strong Marriage is the Result of a Proper Care System" 

 The Parable of the Ten Virgins

​“At that time the kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish and five were wise. The foolish ones took their lamps but did not take any oil with them. The wise ones, however, took oil in jars along with their lamps. The bridegroom was a long time in coming, and they all became drowsy and fell asleep. “At midnight the cry rang out: ‘Here’s the bridegroom! Come out to meet him!’ “Then all the virgins woke up and trimmed their lamps. The foolish ones said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil; our lamps are going out.’ “‘No,’ they replied, ‘there may not be enough for both us and you. Instead, go to those who sell oil and buy some for yourselves.’ “But while they were on their way to buy the oil, the bridegroom arrived. The virgins who were ready went in with him to the wedding banquet. And the door was shut.

- Matthew 25:1-10

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It’s always exciting for us to get a new bike. Everything is shiny and new! We seem to have a new spirit, a revitalized sense of adventure and a new outlook on life. It’s truly an exciting time!

​Over time, however, a new bike starts to show signs of wear and begins to reveal the need for maintenance. Whatever it is, you can’t ignore maintenance, and you need to fix it because over a period of time, the creaks, ticks, squeaks and grinds can turn into a break down.

​Our marriages seem to be going down a similar path. We all found each other, got married with great expectations of what it would be like, hopes of great things to come, and a lot of enthusiasm to get there.

​But, like a bicycle needs maintenance after a few years, so do our marriages. Sometimes, it is a little tune up, and sometimes it is an overhaul. Either way, it has to be done. You simply can’t go through marriage ignoring issues as little ones become big ones and big ones can become terminal.

We encourage you to start correctly fixing problems when you first notice them so you do not become stranded and broken down in marriage. ​Too often we ignore problems or put band aides on a wound that needs stitches or an ace bandage and a splint around a break that needs a cast.

​Even better still, you know difficulties will happen, because they do to every other marriage, so start maintaining before the broken parts show up.

​If the repair seems unattainable, surrender to God and let Him fix it. He’s the best mechanic in town!

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